JaSMiNE & JAiYE SHOW (S3, Ep1)

Key insights from the…Can You Hear me Now? Am I Loud Enough For You episode. Watch the full podcast below.

🎧 Listening as an Act of Love and Presence: Jasmine stresses that true listening requires undivided attention and empathy, not just passive hearing. This insight highlights listening as a deliberate and generous act that nurtures trust and emotional safety. Couples often underestimate how foundational this practice is, assuming hearing words is enough, but it’s the emotional attunement behind those words that fosters intimacy.

🧠 The Mental Challenge of Active Listening: Jay shares that his biggest hurdle is quieting his racing mind to avoid formulating a response while his partner is speaking. This reveals a common cognitive barrier to active listening—our minds’ tendency to prepare answers rather than absorb meaning. Awareness of this challenge is the first step toward cultivating mindfulness in conversations.

📜 Biblical Wisdom as a Communication Guide: The reference to James 1:19 provides a spiritual framework for communication, advising quickness to listen, slowness to speak, and slowness to anger. This threefold approach encourages patience, reflection, and emotional regulation—qualities essential for healthy dialogue especially in the heat of conflict or emotional vulnerability.

🎭 The Three T’s: Tone, Timing, and Temperament: Jasmine breaks down how these factors influence whether communication is received positively or negatively. Tone sets the emotional backdrop of words, timing ensures both partners are mentally and emotionally ready, and temperament reflects the speaker’s overall attitude and heart posture. The alignment of these three creates an environment conducive to empathy and mutual understanding.